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By Toni Coleman
The stores are
decorated in candy hearts, flowers and bears. Every TV or radio
commercial reminds you that it’s time to remember your
sweetheart on this special day for lovers. Your feelings range from
sadness, to revulsion to anger. What’s a single person to do?
The following suggestions are designed to both answer that question
and to help you have a good day after all, while working to make it
your last solo one.
Celebrate the
day by planning an activity that is meaningful and enjoyable to you.
Choose
something that provides you with a special treat.
Design
a relationship-building plan.
Let the
holiday provide you with the motivation to take risks, try new ideas
and gain the knowledge that will enable you to find and create a
lasting, intimate relationship.
Begin
with concrete goals. For example:
Taking care of
yourself and living well will optimize your chances for relationship
success. Start today.
Work to
eliminate negative thinking.
When a
negative thought comes into your mind, take a moment to think about
what is beneath it. Then, tell yourself that thinking this way is not
good for you. Make a decision to drop the thought and try to think of
something (anything) that is positive. It can be as simple as
focusing on what a beautiful day it is outside, to feeling grateful
that you survived the current wave of lay-offs in your company.
Use this
technique for situations as well. Ask yourself how you can view the
situation differently. Try to find one positive angle or outcome that
could result from an otherwise bad situation. For example, you are
being laid off from your job. You have been unhappy for a long time,
but could not motivate yourself to do anything about it. Now, you
have the motivation to look for a new job, or perhaps change careers.
Think of all the possibilities that could open up for you.
Negative
thinking is a downward spiral that leads to negative behavior and
possibly depression. Consciously choose to challenge these thoughts,
and empower yourself with a more positive outlook and approach to life.
Hopefully
these tips will assist you in having a better “solo”
Valentine’s Day than you might have been headed for. Enjoy the
day by doing something fun. Then focus on your relationship plan and
empower yourself to build the healthy, lasting relationship of your dreams.
Toni Coleman
is a licensed therapist and relationship coach in private practice in
McLean, Virginia. She specializes in working with singles who want to
create lasting, intimate relationships. Toni has over 20 years of
post-masters experience in relationship counseling and coaching with
singles and couples. She is the founder and President of LifeChange
Coaching and Consum-mate Relationship Coaching. She developed and
teaches the Creating Lasting Relationships Training, a tele-workshop
designed to help singles to define, implement and fulfill their life
and relationship goals. She has also written numerous email classes
for singles on all aspects of meeting, dating and relating. She is
the author of the email newsletter, The Art of Intimacy, which goes
out to thousands of subscribers monthly. http://www.consum-mate.com
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